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A mixed bag full of opinions

You have probably heard of the phrase, “opinions are like (insert a body part here), everyone has one…” (well, you get the picture.) With the way the world continues to evolve and how people are using their thoughts these days, I would like to change that phrase. To me it is more like, “opinions are like a bag of seeds. Not everyone has one, but it is what kind you have and what you do with it that matters.” It doesn’t matter who you are or what you look like, opinions can make the garden beautiful, or they can grow …

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I need to Find the Fight Within

Recently I was able to have a few conversations with some close friends. In two separate occasions, I was faced with the challenge of looking deeper into my own actions, thoughts, and emotions. Having someone from the outside of your immediate life, with their own questions on how people think, makes a person question their own thoughts. I was asked how I could not believe that I was beautiful and attractive? Why did I struggle with this so much? Why do I still feel like I am not enough? The Past Growing up, I was faced with constant reminders that …

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Do you know what it is like?

I wanted to give you another glimpse of what it is like to be me. Well, to help some of you try to understand what we go through when we are trying to heal. There are some people I do not share my troubles with, because I know I will get something like, “well you just need to do this” or “why did you do that?” Being someone that has depression, anxiety, PTSD, and is actively trying to heal from everything I have and am going through, it is definitely much easier ‘said than done’. Want to know what it …

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Be someone else or choose to be yourself.

Nowadays, we keep hearing about how we should be act in a certain manner, do certain things, look a certain way. If you want people to respect you, act this way. You want the girl to like you, do these things. Trying to get the guy to pay attention to you, try these methods. Then add in constant reminders to always be yourself. Or, if they have a problem with you, that is their issue, not yours. Society has change so much over these years with technology, that most of us just don’t know what to do anymore. Choosing the …

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We should make everyday a special day.

So today is a special day for me. It was 46 years ago that I entered into this world. Today is my birthday, and as I sit here having my friends and family wish me a happy birthday, I cannot help think about what this day really is. Yes, it is March 9th on another year’s calendar. It is another Thursday in the month of March. So, what makes this day any more special than the next? Why can’t tomorrow be special for me too? National what? We hear so many “it is National Day of…(insert anything you can think …

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Carry your legacy through footprints of life

The year is getting closer to closing out. A few years ago, I decided to start work on myself and my mental health. This year has come with some of my greatest challenges and struggles with a few accomplishments tossed in. The weight of the world kept rushing in to try to stop me. But each day I still got out of bed. I went into work. Finished my schoolwork. And then continued to take care of my family. So many friends and family telling me about how strong I was. Yet, constantly feeling weak. What do I want to …

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Can you handle the changes in your life?

I have talked about how we need to start caring about ourselves a little more. About how the stresses in our daily lives can eat away, so we need to have outlets to release some of these emotions. Even talked about ways that we can use exercise, nutrition, and our hobbies to add some positivity into our lives. These are all great….but, what happens when you do start working on yourself? How do you handle the emotions, behaviors, and the thoughts that are now changing? What I am talking about I started working on myself when I started this blog …

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It is about time to love me.

I bet you have heard at least one of these statements. “Do whatever is best for you.” “You need to care about others as much as you care about yourself.” “Don’t just think about yourself. Think about others.” “Make yourself a priority.” Confused? Yeah, I was too for a while. I grew up focused on making sure my family and friends were always taken care of. Their happiness was my priority for most of my life. It became a part of my mindset that I do not need, want, and care for anything for myself because they need to be …

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Do your attachments make you suffer?

I remember so much about my childhood school time. Being the shy girl looking for a friend. When one kid would pay attention to me, I would attach myself to that person and would become their best friend. As a kid, I would want to spend all my time with them at school. I would find it very hard to understand why they were not always wanting to be hanging out with me, the quiet girl. Attachment continues Fast forward to high school. There I found a girl I would hang out with and called her my best friend. Oblivious …

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The ghosts of depression in us all

I want you to think about your friends, coworkers, family, all of the people you walk past every day at the store. See those people? It is very possible at least one of you is suffering from depression. Did you know that 8.4% United States adults have been diagnosed with depression (NIMH, 2020)? Now think about all of those that have depression and do not get treated or diagnosed. Depression and mental health disorders are not like physical illnesses that can be visible. Depression episodes I have been working through several areas of my life all at the same time. …