I bet there is not a single person that has not compared themselves to another in some way. Whether it is comparing image, abilities, or something else, we have all compared. And for many of us, it never is in our favor. So why do we do it? Because when you really look closely, it is never an apples-to-apples comparison anymore.
Image
As we all grow up, the girls compare their ideas of beauty and the boys compare strength and smarts. Ideas of having to be the prettiest girl for the boys to like them or be the strongest or best sports player to be special. Children are learning that they need to change to be more. To be better. Or to be special. Then we hold onto these thoughts as we get older. Making way for society to determine what we should be like.
Abilities
For some people, practice may be needed more than others. Whether it is in school or on the field, the ability to compete and do more is always being compared. Even in the workplace, the ability to get the job done is monitored and by some, compared to other employees. As someone may do the task quicker, another may have a difficult approach.
Not Equal
Every single person in the world is unique. There is one small thing or many things that make you different than the next. The way you look, and think cannot be compared to another. Because you are not equal to them. You have qualities that are distinctive to only you. How you see the world too is special to you. There may be similarities between you and another, but they will never be 100% the same.
This is a hard lesson for us to accept. I compare myself to everyone in so many ways. From the way I look to my life in general, I have compared it all. And the problem is, I still do. This is the insecurity that I fight daily. The constant feeling of not looking good enough, not having the best abilities at the office, and not being special enough. I see coworkers, friends, even people I don’t know having something I am jealous of.
I have to remind myself that I am not them. That they are not me. They do not have my personality, my mind, or my nature. I am unique in this world. As so many have told me, I am an enigma. Because we all are. I have met so many people through my work and socializing. People that may agree and think in similar ways to me, have such a diverse back story. We need to try, really hard, to stop comparing ourselves to others. Not like this. There is no direct comparison. No apples-to-apples look. We are all unique and perfect.
Enjoy this video.
With great warmth,
