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You are stronger than the challenge

Life has a tendency to blindside you every now and then. These last few days have been a big challenge for me and my mental health. Testing my strength and my belief in myself. When you are faced with adversity, how easy it is to have your mind and thoughts drift away. Until you realize you are stronger than the challenge you face. It is all in the process. Challenge I love my job. Everyone knows, because it is true. I actually look forward to going to work every day. The company is nowhere near perfect. The staff are super …

When you know there is something wrong

As you are going through your daily routine, you start to notice that something is off with how you are feeling. You don’t know why you feel this way. Or where it came from. All you know is you are not feeling good. Not happy. Maybe even depressed. This is a point where you have a very important decision. To say something or stay quiet. Get help or hide from it. When you know there is something wrong, then it is time to get help. (Lifeline) Asking for help Asking for help is not easy to do. Pride itself can …

We cannot compare apples-to-apples anymore

I bet there is not a single person that has not compared themselves to another in some way. Whether it is comparing image, abilities, or something else, we have all compared. And for many of us, it never is in our favor. So why do we do it? Because when you really look closely, it is never an apples-to-apples comparison anymore. Image As we all grow up, the girls compare their ideas of beauty and the boys compare strength and smarts. Ideas of having to be the prettiest girl for the boys to like them or be the strongest or …

Understanding it is not just you

I find myself dwelling on everything that stresses me out that I forget one other aspect. I am not the only one that is impacted. Daily I deal with insecurities, depression, and anxiety. And I know that I am not the only one that fights mental health battles. But I forget that those around me and interact with me are also impacted by my mental health. It is not just me that feel the effects of my mental health battles. Family My family are the closest people around me every day. My temperament on any given day effects how the …

When it is time to change directions

This may be a short post, but I have to get this out. I have lived my life for the past 48 years a certain way. As I child I was so desperate to have a friend that I would try to be like the other kids just to fit in. I was so desperate to have a boy like me that I would act the way I thought they wanted. Even now as an adult I still change…no, I leave who I am to the side to please others. And I am tired of it. It is time I …

Learning to fight your fears

As a child, there are many things to be scared of. And as we grow into adults, the fears change. They can become more internal and even more damaging. Fears will develop and grow if they are not destroyed. The good news is there is still time to face your fears and find a happier life on the other side. Growing with Fear Growing up, I had a fear of people not liking me. As a child I was a super quiet little girl, and I wanted friends very badly. To be included and feel like a part of the …

Are you seeking peace or approval?

I like to watch the little reels videos on Facebook to be able to turn my mind off for a little while. And because I like many videos about mental health and self-improvement, there are so many videos on my Facebook page to watch. There are influencers that dedicate their videos about knowing your self-worth and there are groups like Dhar Mann that make stories about respecting others and believing in yourself. But one video came on today that hit closer to home than I thought it would. What are we really seeking out in the world, peace or approval? …

Taking Some Steps to Change my Mind

Every day we do the same routine of waking up and going to school or work. We may be taking care of our family or just taking care of ourselves. But Each day is the same thing. Day in and day out. Our actions are the same. But our mind also can get stuck in this rut. This never-ending cycle of thought leads to no action. I found myself recently in a position that I have been stuck for years. And trying to change is extremely difficult. The Need for Change First, I needed to identify that there was a …

The damage of Stress on the mind

Every day we wake up and face the day. Each day we take care of family and friends. We go to school and work. Cooking, cleaning, and making sure everyone is taken care of. There may be times of joy or relaxation. And a constant move to get through the day. Every minute, hour, day, week, and month goes by without hesitation. How we face these moments impact our health.  Stress builds up until the damage has been done. Downfall Stress can be useful to a person or destructive. Identifying and managing the types of stress offers each person the …

It’s not just mental health anymore

When someone asks you about how your health is doing, many of you probably only think about your physical health. Don’t worry, because I usually do too. That’s because physical health is more publicized and commercialized. “Come join our gym to start feeling good about your body!” And “Check out this gadget that will make it easier to eat your fruits and vegetables.” Sound familiar? When was the last time you heard or saw anything about counselor groups or ways to get help for your mind? But the problem is, mental health should not be ignored. Because mental health and …