Nowadays, we keep hearing about how we should be act in a certain manner, do certain things, look a certain way. If you want people to respect you, act this way. You want the girl to like you, do these things. Trying to get the guy to pay attention to you, try these methods. Then add in constant reminders to always be yourself. Or, if they have a problem with you, that is their issue, not yours. Society has change so much over these years with technology, that most of us just don’t know what to do anymore.
Choosing the path
I have been on a path of learning ways to build up my strength. Finding my voice, my wants in life, and to build up the love of myself. I don’t have very many friends. Those that I do have are the closest people in my life other than my family. They are my rock when I need it. These people love me and want me in their life for a reason. I didn’t have to be dressed in anything fancy. Didn’t have to like sports. (I tolerate and understand it. Not a diehard fan.) All I had to do was show them I cared about them. Show them that I was interested in what they were and if they needed a shoulder, I was there.
Society
Society is developing so much that there are kids these days being defined by the types of toys they have. Whether or not they play sports. Some are being defined by their culture. I have been fortunate that my son has some really good friends at school and at home. Ones that can see when my son is getting overwhelmed or misdirected. They care about him and will teach him or just spend some time engaged with his interests.
Kids
My son is just a typical 8-year-old kid. He is more emotional than most kids. Can get angry easier than most kids too. So, I am having a hard time trying to help him understand that his emotions and anger could result in some kids not wanting to play with him all of the time. I want him to grow up to be who he is. But I want him to be respectful. I want him to have friends too. Why do I feel like this is counteractive?
Ways to change
We are constantly looking for ways to change ourselves. Sure, there are medical reasons for changes. Requirements to preserve our physical health by changing diet, losing some weight, or stop exposure to toxic elements. But are we changing other areas of our lives for the right reasons? Am I changing my personality from the quiet one to a more interactive person for me or for someone else? That is where it is more difficult to answer.
Ultimate choice
Ultimately, we should love, care, and respect ourselves. If I want to change my outlook and personality, I should only be doing it because I made that choice. I want my life to be filled with happiness. To have everything I deserve to have in my life. Realizing that my quiet nature was holding me back from fighting to get this, it was time to make some changes. So, I am changing myself FOR myself. Those closest to me would agree that I am not the same person I was years ago. And I won’t be the same person next year either.
Always choose you
It should be our choice…and ONLY our choice to make that change. There should be no one that tries to force us to change who we are. The problem, too many people in society try to push and force. Remember that each one of us is special. There is literally no one on the planet that is you. It is that reason, that you have the ultimate power. You choose. No one else. Choose you and happiness. Choose love.
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With great warmth,
