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Can you handle the changes in your life?

I have talked about how we need to start caring about ourselves a little more. About how the stresses in our daily lives can eat away, so we need to have outlets to release some of these emotions. Even talked about ways that we can use exercise, nutrition, and our hobbies to add some positivity into our lives. These are all great….but, what happens when you do start working on yourself? How do you handle the emotions, behaviors, and the thoughts that are now changing? What I am talking about I started working on myself when I started this blog …

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Do We Naturally Think Negative

“I am not strong enough to handle that.” “Why can’t I do anything right.” “That is too difficult.” Do these statements sound familiar? I can guarantee that either you have said some or you have heard people say them to you. Ever wonder why it is so easy for us to say statements like these? That go to the negative instead of looking for positive. Everything looking dark and grey instead of bright and beautiful. Maybe because we, as humans, are hardwired to focus on negatives first. How to change negative thinking Negativity for survival Think about the caveman coming …

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It is about time to love me.

I bet you have heard at least one of these statements. “Do whatever is best for you.” “You need to care about others as much as you care about yourself.” “Don’t just think about yourself. Think about others.” “Make yourself a priority.” Confused? Yeah, I was too for a while. I grew up focused on making sure my family and friends were always taken care of. Their happiness was my priority for most of my life. It became a part of my mindset that I do not need, want, and care for anything for myself because they need to be …

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Do your attachments make you suffer?

I remember so much about my childhood school time. Being the shy girl looking for a friend. When one kid would pay attention to me, I would attach myself to that person and would become their best friend. As a kid, I would want to spend all my time with them at school. I would find it very hard to understand why they were not always wanting to be hanging out with me, the quiet girl. Attachment continues Fast forward to high school. There I found a girl I would hang out with and called her my best friend. Oblivious …

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Are you who you want to be?

I have been sitting here thinking about my life and who I am. Since I started thinking about the adjectives that would describe me for my journal, it has me really thinking about how I see myself. I know what my past has shown me. What events I had been faced with and forced to overcome, even when I was too young to understand why life was the way it was. Like when I was a teenager going through junior high school and having kids tease me and boys “pretend” to like me. Or in high school when I had …

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How you see yourself

I purchased a really cool journal for myself called “Love This F*cking Journey for me” by D.A. Sarac. The beginning section of the journal has you reflecting on your past and what you would say to the younger you. But then, I got stuck. Because I ended up on the page that focuses on me now. It is an image of a watering can and water drops down to a small plant. The object of the page is to fill in the water drops with all of the adjectives you would use to describe yourself. Outside view of my life …

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Too much in life making you numb

You ever get those days that it feels like everything is coming down on you? So much going on at work, too much at school, overwhelming family life, and then add relationships on top of all of that. Too many thoughts. Way too many feelings. And all you can do is take one step in front of the other like a robot through your life. You suddenly feel numb. Not really sad, or happy, or even…well anything. Just a robot I’ve had too many robotic days in my life. Each day blended into the other. Thoughts in my head swarmed …

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Am I really happy with my life?

In my classes for my masters, we briefly talked about the 8 Dimensions of Wellness that covered the financial, emotional, environmental, physical, occupational, spiritual, intellectual, and social elements in our lives that we can improve or define to balance our personal wellness. I spoke about these dimensions in previous posts. But my professor asked about another one that is similar that broke it out into 10 areas instead of 8. Each area was a part of life. Each small step of life that leads to a happier wellbeing. Thinking about life This got me to thinking. Am I really happy …

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It is beautiful to be you

Last week I mentioned about how life can change in a split second. That goes for our own mind frame. What I am talking about is that in a split second we can go from feeling good to immediately feeling bad. Or vice versa go from feeling bad about ourselves to suddenly feeling good. I bring this up because recently I had kind of an epiphany in my life. I had someone I didn’t know and I had a dear friend of mine, tell me that I was very beautiful and anyone who had me in their life was lucky. …

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Sticks and stones (and words) can hurt us

I have been standing here at my son’s school waiting for him to come out, watching all of these other families and how they interact with each other. I have been watching the parent’s overall look compared to their child’s appearance. It got me thinking about my son and childhood in general. As a parent, am I helping my child, or are my words hurting his later years too? Have you ever said or heard, “comb your hair, it looks like a mess?” Here’s another one, “tuck your shirt in so you don’t look like a slob.” And one I …