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It is the one thing you want, need, and never have enough…Time

We need time to experience life. To think and process. We want more of it to be with loved ones. And there is never enough to do it all. Time is the one thing that controls us all. Running around with schedules. Deadlines and calendars that dictate how we use our days. All of this, and we still cannot make time for ourselves. Life hits hard every day. Some of us need time to process the situation. This allows us to dissect events and feelings from the issue. Allowing us to understand better and control the outcome as we need …

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It doesn’t always look the same to everyone.

There was an event on social media a while about a dress that appeared to be one color to some people and a completely different color to others. We know that there are people who cannot see certain colors. But when it comes to our own view, our vision is distorted. How we see ourselves is nothing like how others see us. We do not look the same to everyone. As a child, I fought against teasing for how I looked. I was tall, but I was a big kid. I was quiet and shy. To the other kids, I …

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Reading Between the Everyday Lines

I had a rough few days lately. Criticism is never easy to hear, no matter how it is delivered. Add in the constant feeling of not being good enough, and criticism is even harder to handle. No one likes being told they did something wrong. So, when I received some criticism a couple of days ago, it was a hit to my emotions. Delivery I am not going to get into how the critique was delivered by the other person. This one was blunt and straight forward. But whether it was softened or harsh, getting news that something you did …

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It’s all about who you know

I have been trying to learn more about who I am. As each year goes by, I find myself angry that I wasted my early years. I am in my late 40’s and I am trying to figure out who I am. Most people use their 20s and maybe even their 30s to figure out what they like and what they want in life. But for me, I was so deep into a depression and this false sense of worth, that I was lost. Mirror Mirror Today, I am learning more. Like how I always felt that I was not …

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You don’t know it is special until it’s gone

Well, it is finally here. There is only one day left for me and then no more. I have been busy saying my goodbyes to everyone that has meant so much to me. But this chapter is coming to a close. Just one last day with my current job and then off to another. My last day of work is here, and a new career is ahead of me. This past week I have been reaching out to everyone I had the opportunity to work with to bid them a heartfelt farewell. Realizing that it is not only my career …

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Advice from the outside looking in

As I have been working through so many things in my life, I find myself struggling. This struggle is very frustrating, not just to me, but to those that love and care about me. Because I struggle to take advice. Yup, that’s it. I can listen to what my friends and family tell me I should do or not do all day long. But when I am at a point to make the decision, I just can’t seem to do it. And I couldn’t understand why…until recently. Wake up advice My wake-up call about my life was actually a phone …

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A mixed bag full of opinions

You have probably heard of the phrase, “opinions are like (insert a body part here), everyone has one…” (well, you get the picture.) With the way the world continues to evolve and how people are using their thoughts these days, I would like to change that phrase. To me it is more like, “opinions are like a bag of seeds. Not everyone has one, but it is what kind you have and what you do with it that matters.” It doesn’t matter who you are or what you look like, opinions can make the garden beautiful, or they can grow …

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A deeper look at resentment

Ever hear something just in passing only to have it constantly replay in your mind for days or weeks after? Some have called this “earworms”. Most of us have a song stuck in our heads over and over. Probably from a commercial or a social media post. For me, it is quotes. And this one I cannot stop thinking about it. I came across a social media video where someone stated, “people tend to resent others because they are doing something that we do not feel we are allowed to do.” Think about that for a minute. Not just one-sided …

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I need to Find the Fight Within

Recently I was able to have a few conversations with some close friends. In two separate occasions, I was faced with the challenge of looking deeper into my own actions, thoughts, and emotions. Having someone from the outside of your immediate life, with their own questions on how people think, makes a person question their own thoughts. I was asked how I could not believe that I was beautiful and attractive? Why did I struggle with this so much? Why do I still feel like I am not enough? The Past Growing up, I was faced with constant reminders that …

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Faking it to make it…look normal

We have all heard the phrase at least once in our lives. “Fake it till you make it!” To pretend to be something or do something to get the reward you really want. To use this as a motivation or to use this as a way to hide. How many of us have told someone that we can do a task, only you actually don’t know how to? How many of us have been asked to act or look a certain way, only to impress others? Who has used this statement to hide behind true emotions so that we don’t …