There was an event on social media a while about a dress that appeared to be one color to some people and a completely different color to others. We know that there are people who cannot see certain colors. But when it comes to our own view, our vision is distorted. How we see ourselves is nothing like how others see us. We do not look the same to everyone.
As a child, I fought against teasing for how I looked. I was tall, but I was a big kid. I was quiet and shy. To the other kids, I was just weird. It seemed that no matter how hard I tried or what I did, their view didn’t change. But mine did. Because I went from a kid with a big imagination to an adult anxious about everything I do.
I know someone that even today, feels they are not good enough for the world. But they still try to impress everyone they know. They cannot see how others see them. As if this person is viewing life through a fogged lens. Unable to clearly see the true features they display.
I have always struggled with how I see myself. Last year I was working through a fun journal to help me with my self-love. There was a page that asked me to list all of the adjectives I would use to describe myself. The following page was adjectives my friends, family and loved ones would use to describe me. The two lists were vastly different. Words like driven, caring, and confident were used by them. I used words like quiet, patient, and emotional.
It has been taking me years to begin to see how others see me. Lately, I have challenged myself to say one positive thing about myself. Beginning to understand when I am called an enigma and unique. By clearing the self-loathing fog from my personal lens, I start to see a little clearer how others can see me.
Others see pieces of us. Very few special people can really our true selves. But the hard part is we don’t even see our true selves. We see pieces that seem to glare out as flaws. And they are not flaws at all. They are unique and special. Each piece makes us who we are. Embrace the many pieces of you. But remember to look beyond and into the positive. Start seeing you as I see you….beautiful!
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