We go through life hearing we should treat others as how we want to be treated. Were you taught to be respectful of others? So why is it so hard to treat yourself this way? How is it that we cannot respect ourselves the way we do our family and friends? Are you treating yourself the way you deserve? Do you know what you want and need in life?
Lost
Someone reminded me that my needs and wants are just as important as my family’s. But my problem is realizing what my needs and wants are. Because I have lived most of my life ignoring myself for everyone around me, that I stopped wanting. So, when my therapist asked me what I wanted to do with my free time, I couldn’t answer her. When she asked me what could make me content, I had nothing. I lost my focus.
Need
If you were asked, give me one thing that you like to do, could you answer it? As you can tell, I like to write. It is something that allows me to voice all of my thoughts. It doesn’t need to be neat and organized. I just need to have the outlet to write my feelings and thoughts so that I can stop overthinking.
Every day, at work, I push to make sure I have all of the details for my project known. I will review them many times. Organize it and then organize it again. Ask many questions with some repeating. But I want to make sure that I accomplish this project to the best of my ability. I want to show that I can do this and do it well.
Their Wants
When I am with my friends and family, I find it very easy to take care of them. They want me to help them with their projects, I am there. If they want me to take them somewhere, I do. If they need to use something of mine, I give it to them. I will do what I can to meet their needs and wants to make them happy. So why can’t I do that for me?
To be honest, I want to be happy. I need to have time to myself away from the chaos in life. When I really look at it, I want to be respected by everyone that knows me. I need to be comforted in my dark days. And I want to be a priority. But I don’t want to be ignored. And no one wants to be left.
You
Understanding what you want and what you need in life is vital to your happiness. Not just the wants and needs from your family and friends, but from yourself. Because right now, I need myself to make me a priority. I want myself to respect me and believe in me. I need myself to love who I am. And I want myself to love life. Standing for our wants and needs from others is hard enough. But we need to be standing for our wants and needs from ourselves. That is true power.
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With great warmth,
