As many of you know by now, I recently graduated with my masters. This morning, I participated in the ceremony at the college campus. Throughout the ceremony, the common topic emphasized was resilience. The ability to overcome tough events throughout our lives. Too many of us are fighting some tough times in our lives right now. But for me, it is not just resilience that got me where I am today. Society I was discussing how society has changed so much over the last 20-plus years with my husband this morning. Finding now, how we are facing individuals looking for …
A Simple Letter for You
Dear you, I wanted to reach out to you to see how you are doing. I have been noticing that you are taking a few extra breaths and sometimes you appear to be lost in your thoughts lately. There are often times that many of us wish life would just ease up a little. Almost as if we are being singled out to have so much of these bad things happen to us like heartache, failures, and put-downs. I remember hearing this quote of “I asked for strength and was given difficulties to make me strong.” Or how about “the …
How I can be Happy
Had an interesting conversation with some friends of mine, this week. One of them told me that they withheld asking to do something with me because they were worried I might think about them differently. As if there was a potential that I might not like them or hate them. This had me thinking so many thoughts after that interaction. Especially, how many times in my life did I hold back from something I wanted or needed just to please another? Happy Back Then I took a trip down memory lane after that day to think about the people I …
Need of self-care for you and them
Recently, I have been battling trying to find myself. After spending so many years being the quiet one and dedicating my time and energy to helping everyone around me, I fell into a constant depression. There were so many years that I walked around and even told people that my purpose on earth was to make everyone around me happy. But I had a problem…a big problem. I was losing myself. Past the Future I have been coming across quotes that would say, “let the past go, it is not what makes you.” Or “focus on who you are today …
Can’t compare to what matters to you.
Recently I am seeing quotes and images that say, “think of this the next time you feel your life is getting too hard.” And I have to be honest, I hate those signs. If I went through life comparing my troubles every day to those around the world…it would be like comparing watermelons to a grain of sand. The world around us has problems that are imaginable. So how could I ever compare my depression to that? If it helps That is something that so many people try to use, thinking they are helping those of us that struggle. Like …
The Need of Boundaries in Life
Boundaries are not just something on a map. Having a balance of limitation can provide safety, comfort, and peace in a person’s life. Whether you need to set them for coworkers and bosses, friends, your children, or your significant others. Boundaries are necessary in a healthy relationship. That is as long as everyone can stick to them. Boundaries at work Boundaries at work are some of the more difficult to set and even more difficult to maintain. Workplace boundaries that show respect for your coworker’s desk or office, respect for fellow coworker’s time, and the understanding that not one person …
Kid’s stories and jokes of the truth
Kids say the darndest things. I mean some of the things that my son or his friends say come from an imagination that is open to the world. And I love hearing all about it, seeing how creative they can be. Nothing is off limits. My son would talk about seeing the clouds in the sky and thinking about our dogs that have passed away jumping from cloud to cloud playing and watching us. Then stories about being a ninja or the slayer of all evil and he is set out to protect me or his friends. I love hearing …
School is back in session once again
It is that time of the year when school is back in session. Some schools have been going for a month already while there are some beginning in a week or two. We parents are eager for our little ones to get back out there to learn new things and meet new friends. Those starting new schools and those starting college have the added excitement of new facilities, teachers, and for some to be away from the family. School time of fun School is supposed to be exciting, and maybe it once was. But today, going to school is beginning …
Many Options for Outlets of Stress in Life
Life can come at us very hard sometimes. Throwing curveballs in our days any chance it can. A project going perfect until one small change and then suddenly everything is on the line. Relationships moving in a loving way, until one phone call, one chance encounter. Then suddenly questions build, and confusion is all that remains. No matter who you are, there will be a day that tests your mind. Do you have outlets that you can use to ease the stress? The Outlet We all need a form of outlet in our lives to ease the stress of life. …
It is Okay Not to Understand
I was talking to a friend recently about things I am feeling and how my mind thinks about the world around me. This person commented (in a joking manner) that I was messed up in the head. Now, I did not take this in any other form than the fact that they truly did not understand what I was going through. They did not understand how my mind functioned and how something small can be a trigger of severe anxiety to me. I responded to my friend that it is an eye-opening experience when you hear me talk about myself …