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Do you avoid change?

Ever wish you can go back in time and do something differently? I bet you experienced a fair share of moments where you asked, “what if?” Change is all around us. One decision can make all the difference in a moment of time or a lifetime. But when you are faced with trauma or grief, change is hard. Some people can handle it, while others avoid it. Physical I was talking with a friend this past week about grief. They lost a close family member last year and he was able to adjust and accept. But he is finding members …

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Emotions are not weak but strength

I have been listening to some videos about ADHD and someone mentioned how everyone needs time to decompress their emotions and stress. We all have them. Emotions that build up and we have no outlet or a way to release. Whether it is to scream or just sit quietly, it is needed. Any Age My son has ADHD. He has big feelings and even bigger expressions. I want to find a way to help him regulate everything he feels. But knowing it is hard to regulate my own emotions, it is 100 times harder for him. For those that may …

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Guess what? It is all about me!

I have been spiraling. Drowning in despair and depression. Losing my ambition and my drive. Like I was building my box again to hide in. Everything felt impossible and nothing was going right for me. At times I believed that there was no part of my life that was going well. I was falling and I didn’t know if I could be saved again. That was until I had an epiphany during one of my “car-therapy” sessions. Now my focus is defined, and my path is set…on me. Therapy I love driving. Road trips are so relaxing for me. And …

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Don’t explode the ticking time bomb

This is something that I know too many people can relate to. I truly feel that society has taught us to hold our emotions in. You face so much in your daily life, how many times do you let out your anger or excitement? Who has been told to not show you were upset or crying so you wouldn’t be seen as weak? As children we were taught to hide our emotions, so we were not appearing to be weak or better than others. All that did was create a ticking time bomb inside each one of us. And all …

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Reading Between the Everyday Lines

I had a rough few days lately. Criticism is never easy to hear, no matter how it is delivered. Add in the constant feeling of not being good enough, and criticism is even harder to handle. No one likes being told they did something wrong. So, when I received some criticism a couple of days ago, it was a hit to my emotions. Delivery I am not going to get into how the critique was delivered by the other person. This one was blunt and straight forward. But whether it was softened or harsh, getting news that something you did …

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The choice is always yours

When I was studying for my masters, I came across a theorist that came up with the Choice Theory. The theory states that we have full control and choice on how we react to events in our lives. That we are responsible for our own behavior and emotions. And I have to be completely honest, it wasn’t until I really thought about it, but I believe this. The choice really is ours. Hardest Choice It will never be easy to do, but I firmly believe that you can choose how you feel and how you react to things that happen …

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Just remember I am not you

I will probably make this week’s post short. Time management is not my friend today. But there is a message I want to share. So many times we come across a loved one or a friend or just someone we know that is in a situation similar to what we have already experienced. Ask every mother in the world about how many times they received “advice” from another mother because they “knew” what they were going through. You are not me and I am not you. Situations are always going to feel similar. But the main piece that is different …

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We all have one and rarely used

Every day we try to use it. Some succeed in using it the best way. Others tend to use it selfishly. Something we all have and do not use very well. Our voice. How difficult it can be for us to come out and actually say what we want. For too many people, using our voice is frightening. Others, using it is liberating. But for me, my it is unfamiliar. Learn I cannot remember how to use my voice, but I am learning. Too many years have I kept silent that I should have been using. Didn’t want to “rock …

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Not the same, just different people

I have not met one person that is not dealing with some kind of stress in their life. They maybe having a good day today, but yesterday was a hard one. A good friend of mine is dealing with an ailing parent and all of the stress that comes with it. I know she is tired and frustrated. So, when I have my bad days, I feel bad for asking for comfort. Why am I feeling so bad when my friend has it worse? Not Similar You cannot compare your life to anyone else’s. You may have similarities in the …

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How to describe it all

We all get asked a simple question, “how are you doing?” But lately, I cannot answer it. When I take a second to think about it, I can’t tell if I am okay or not. I don’t know if I am happy or not. And that is when I realize that I can’t describe it all. Because I feel numb. But it’s numb from feeling it all. There are so many emotions running through, I feel none of it. So how do I answer the question. How can I describe it? Patterns Someone pointed out to me recently that I …