Ever wish you can go back in time and do something differently? I bet you experienced a fair share of moments where you asked, “what if?” Change is all around us. One decision can make all the difference in a moment of time or a lifetime. But when you are faced with trauma or grief, change is hard. Some people can handle it, while others avoid it.
Physical
I was talking with a friend this past week about grief. They lost a close family member last year and he was able to adjust and accept. But he is finding members of his family are not adjusting at all. When lives are lost, no matter how sudden, the change is dramatic. Learning how to continue living the next day with this missing piece can be daunting for many.
Emotional
Living your life a certain way becomes comfortable. Growing up as a people pleaser, always doing for others in hopes to be accepted. This was my life for over 40 years. Every day I made sure that everyone else was happy, even when it was at my expense. From childhood to adult, this way only. And now at 48, I am facing change. Living a people pleaser life is not healthy for me. Because it has led me to never focus on me. Losing my identity in the process.
Mental
No matter the situation your life is in, change is difficult. We become comfortable in our little bubble of life that anything different is foreign. It feels selfish and strange to me when I put myself first. It is not my usual, my constant. Over my life, I conditioned myself into a learned helplessness. Because now, I struggle in my life. Acceptance is easier than change.
Everyone has parts of their lives they wish they could change. Without it, there is little to no brightness from the darkness. The only option to break away from the negative in your life is to make a change. By sitting there not doing anything, there is no break. As a matter of fact, you open yourself up to more negativity instead. Not liking how you look, don’t like how you feel, someone not treating you right, time for a change.
Necessary
If you refuse to make a change in your life that could benefit your health, you are stuck. It is like you are standing in one spot expecting something to happen. Well, the only thing happening is the world is continuing to spin. Change is natural. And if you resist, you miss out. Missing out on friendships. Relationships that are healthier. Learning more about yourself. Meeting new people. And you could miss out on happiness. Change is hard. But it is not impossible. You have strength and support. I believe in you. Make the change for you.
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