“You don’t know what you can do, if you don’t do it yourself.” “I don’t need anyone’s help.” “I can do it myself.” “I am embarrassed to ask for help.” Do any of this sound familiar to you? How many times have you been faced with so much on your plate that you just cannot handle it yourself? Secretly wishing someone would help you or take the hurt away? Or just have someone that will sit and listen to your feelings? We all have. And we also know how hard it is to ask for help. The internal feeling of being “not enough” tends to hit hard. But we should all remember that it is okay to not be okay. And it is okay to ask for help.
Help out of the Deep End
When I am deep in my emotions…which happens too often…I tend to get really quiet from the world. Some of my close friends get the sense from me when they see this, that there is something I am dealing with. There is one friend that always makes sure to reach out when they see…or not hear from me…for a while. Not realizing that I am in so deep, my helping hand is there for me.
Daily
I also know someone that has been trying to work through stresses in their life. They are so deep in the worries and anxiety of trying to get everything figured out, that their physical health is being effected. Sometimes, all it takes is for one person to step in and listen. Give them some of your time to help try to figure out even a small piece of the worry. Allow for some of the weight to be lifted.
Pathway
Everyone has something that they are working through. A stress or worry they are living with. A frustration or so many emotions, there is too much. And coming from someone that lives in this constantly, asking for help is very hard. Let me give you an idea of what I go through when I am in deep. When I have so much on my mind, I tend to blank out. Sounds weird, huh? So, my mind goes blank. It is very difficult to focus or think about any one thing. But if there is only one thing that is troubling me, that is the only thing I can focus on.
When I am in this situation, my depression has already kicked in. I have already started overthinking every detail and spiraled down in to the “why would anyone like me?” But it is at that point that asking anyone for help is no longer a consideration. Because I feel like I am a burden to everyone. “I do nothing to help them, why would they want me around.” “Who would want to talk to me? I seem to always be like this and no one wants to be around someone who is depressing.”
Asking for Help
The problem is that I cannot get help without opening up to someone first. It is a scary situation for someone like me, but has to be done. But this is also where having a good support system is helpful. I have my family, certain friends, and special friends I have made through my game. These people are ones that have watched over me, understand that I fight battles daily, and stand beside me to catch me each time I fall. When there are those days I am in too deep to reach out, they are there checking in on me.
Everyone can use a helping hand. And for many of us, we don’t even know we need it. This is why I ask you to please, reach out to all of your friends. Contact each one of your family members. Someone is fighting a silent battle and doesn’t know how to get out. They just need the one person willing to be there and listen to make it through the day. Too many of us lose the battle with our minds daily. And all it takes is a helping hand to save one more.
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With great warmth,
