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Do We Naturally Think Negative

“I am not strong enough to handle that.” “Why can’t I do anything right.” “That is too difficult.” Do these statements sound familiar? I can guarantee that either you have said some or you have heard people say them to you. Ever wonder why it is so easy for us to say statements like these? That go to the negative instead of looking for positive. Everything looking dark and grey instead of bright and beautiful. Maybe because we, as humans, are hardwired to focus on negatives first. How to change negative thinking Negativity for survival Think about the caveman coming …

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It is about time to love me.

I bet you have heard at least one of these statements. “Do whatever is best for you.” “You need to care about others as much as you care about yourself.” “Don’t just think about yourself. Think about others.” “Make yourself a priority.” Confused? Yeah, I was too for a while. I grew up focused on making sure my family and friends were always taken care of. Their happiness was my priority for most of my life. It became a part of my mindset that I do not need, want, and care for anything for myself because they need to be …

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My brain won’t let me.

I was talking to my son a few days ago about how I wish he would listen to me better. Like when I tell him to do something, it is usually because it is teaching him something, keeping him safe, or guiding him to be respectful. I explained to him that lately it seemed he was more interested in doing what he wanted and would try to find a way to get what he wants done with or without doing what I asked. His response…”Mom, I’m trying to do what you say. But my brain won’t let me. It is …

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Do you have thoughts in the dark?

Have you ever had one of those days when it feels like nothing is going right? Almost as if the world is against you? Maybe you are missing someone that has meant the world to you, and you cannot be with them? Those can be some of the hardest days to get through. Where you begin to wonder why you are having to feel this way. Wondering why you are having to go through this. It is those dark days that can lead you into dark thoughts. Scared Most of us have had those times in our lives that begin …

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How to talk to someone

We all have those times when a friend has just gone through a hard time in life. You stand there wanting to comfort them. But you don’t know quite what to say. You want to show you care. But you don’t want to be the one to bring up a bad time for them. It just seems like there is so much said and so much not to say. To say or not to say I talked about how I had recently lost my dad to cancer and when I returned home and to work, I could tell how so …

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Kinds of Support We All Need

“You know you can always talk to me.” “I am here if you need me.” These are some common phrases from a few good friends of mine. I know they mean well. But I have a problem…I look for ways to not go to them. “I don’t want to bother them.” Or “they are busy with their own family or drama, I can’t add to that.” This leaves me with a small number of people I do feel comfortable talking to. My support system. And it is getting smaller these days. The Need We all need a support system to …

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We are all strong

When you hear the words strong and strength, you are probably picturing people that can lift weights. Strength is not always visible. Being strong is not always about a physical act. I know because every one of you reading this is strong. Strength is waking up in the morning and getting out of bed. A sign of strength is stepping foot out of your home and into the daylight. Being strong is making it through the last 24 hours and the 24 hours before. Strength is giving a friend a hug when they need one, even though you want to …

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WHAT IS SO SPECIAL ABOUT MENTAL HEALTH

It is May again. Mental Health Awareness month. More and more ads are coming out about mental health. To make aware of those who suffer from depression, anxiety, PTSD, and so much more. In my honest opinion, we should be aware of this all year long. Growing up, we didn’t hear about depression and anxiety. Schools didn’t talk about it in health class. So why are we so focused on it now? WHY IS MENTAL HEALTH SO IMPORTANT Let me ask you this question, when you are sick with a cold or the flu, do you feel happy? How about …

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Do your attachments make you suffer?

I remember so much about my childhood school time. Being the shy girl looking for a friend. When one kid would pay attention to me, I would attach myself to that person and would become their best friend. As a kid, I would want to spend all my time with them at school. I would find it very hard to understand why they were not always wanting to be hanging out with me, the quiet girl. Attachment continues Fast forward to high school. There I found a girl I would hang out with and called her my best friend. Oblivious …

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The ghosts of depression in us all

I want you to think about your friends, coworkers, family, all of the people you walk past every day at the store. See those people? It is very possible at least one of you is suffering from depression. Did you know that 8.4% United States adults have been diagnosed with depression (NIMH, 2020)? Now think about all of those that have depression and do not get treated or diagnosed. Depression and mental health disorders are not like physical illnesses that can be visible. Depression episodes I have been working through several areas of my life all at the same time. …