I have been talking about how each daily we face challenges. Mentioning having good support systems, and when to reach out for professional support. But we don’t talk much about after. The day-to-day life after the trauma or event. How does life move on? What about the people in our lives? Can we forgive or forget what happened?
Daily
We face so much in our lives. Almost as if it is a miracle we even make it through. How does one person survive so much and still try to smile? I admit it is really hard. It took me quite some time to realize that everything I have lived through shaped who I am today. Each event, challenge, excitement was either a learning moment, or a living moment. And I had the power to decide which one it was. Most importantly, I had the power to decide the effect it would have on my life.
We all have memories. Stories of our past that have a meaning to us. They might be sentimental stories of childhood wonder. Or they could be nightmares of times that scared us. For me, I have memories of pretending to teach my stuffies about math. And sad stories of being teased by schoolmates. I remember getting tricked by guys that pretended to like me. And that one time I made a scary choice that could have cost my life.
Learning
These moments have taught me lessons about the world I live in and the person I was. And now as an adult, I still face lessons. But the one thing I have to be careful of is how these lessons also impact those around me. I could easily hide from the world, lose myself to the stress and strain of my life, or even let these challenges change my personality. Or can I live my life the way I chose to.
I have met many people that struggle to let go of past events. Someone saying something hurtful, being ignored, or being denied recognition. But let me ask you, can any of you go back in time? Do any of you possess the ability to change time? No. It sucks, but time cannot be altered. It is the only constant in this world. Time doesn’t stop. So, you have a choice. Let the hurtful event fester and feed hate and pain within you while wasting precious time, or acknowledging it, learning from it, and not giving it power?
There is a moment in everyone’s life that we are faced with that decision, hold’em or let it go. Do we hold onto events of the past and let it build up their negative power within us and create more pain and hate, or do we let it go after learning from them? I don’t know about you, but I would rather spend my time and energy chasing a happier and healthier life than giving it up to something from the past.
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With great warmth,
