These past couple of weeks have been extremely stressful for me. I struggled to focus, function, or even manage my thoughts and emotions. Then talking with some friends, I found they were struggling with similar issues. Facing grief, they struggled with managing their thoughts and emotions. It took me a few days to get control again. Realizing that the only person who can control and manage my emotions is me. My emotions managed by my rules.
You Control
One of my friends has been dealing with caring for their in-laws that was very sick. The stress they face daily, trying to care for their own family, the in-laws, and trying to find time to care for themselves, too much. I am exhausted thinking about all of that. I have another friend that recently lost a parent. For both friends, the only thing I could say to them was to process everything in their own time. Do not let anyone try to push you to do something or feel bad about your feelings.
We have control over how we react to situations. And we have control over how we feel about it. I have been called a saint all because I am able to control my feelings and emotions when faced with certain events. Finding a way to not let actions of others impact your mental health, will give you added strength you didn’t realize you had. Understanding that being upset with this one person, actually offers me no benefit. Realizing I have more control of the situation than they do.
Power
However, ultimately, you need to find an outlet for your stress and emotions. It is your emotions and your rules. Having power and knowing that you can control your environment. Do things on your terms. Process your grief and your stress on your time. Everyone is different. If you feel the need to step away for a little bit, shut down for a day, process what has happened? Then do it. You make the rules on how your mind and your body will accept the environment.
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With great warmth,
