Who here doesn’t like compliments? Having someone else tell you that you are special. Those times that give you a glimpse of happiness. Everyone appreciates hearing that they are pretty, smart, and good enough. But when was the last time you gave yourself a compliment? Because it is true. It is all about you!
Therapy Session
I was talking with my friend the other day and we were on the topic of soul searching. Trying to discover who we are and what we want in our lives. So yesterday when I was in the car alone, I decided to have some car-therapy. (My version of talking to myself about my problems.) I needed to dig down to try to understand me. Friends and family will give me compliments all the time. But so many times, I don’t believe what they say is true.
Reflection
My friend called me an enigma. (Yeah, it took me a minute to figure it out too. Okay maybe longer.) The thing is, I am me. But I feel lost most days. Trying to figure out who I am and where I am going in life. Am I good enough to take on more at work? And am I nice enough for this person to like me? I fight these demons daily. So, when my friend called me an enigma, I was confused. That was until I talked it out and broke it down.
Who?
I am me. When you talk to me, this is who I am. I do not have a “poker face” or able to hide my true feelings. And when it comes to other people, I care about everyone. It’s true. Because I understand that each person has a story to tell. I don’t know what they have been through or are fighting internally. So, I respect you too. But there is more to me. Many know me as the quiet one. That is because I am constantly watching my surroundings and processing everything. This also makes me slow in thinking…no. I am an overthinker. That moment in time will be dissected until there are no other options. Plus, I am a patient person. Being able to look at different angles to understand what is really going on.
Belief
The thing is, I never truly believed I was anything special…until now. My car-therapy yesterday, helped me to vocalize my worries and pushed me to see how others see me. Recently I completed my first year at my job. It wasn’t until yesterday that I accepted that I am good at what I do, especially when coworkers, bosses, and executives tell me they feel better knowing I am on the project. I have accepted that I am kind when I have friends on a computer game from all over the world and friends at work wanting to spend time with me.
Me
When I look at my life and the anxiety and depression, I realize how much is tied to how I feel about myself. Sure, there are events that trigger depression and anxiety, but deep down, it all comes down to us. How we feel about ourselves will either build on depression or build on our confidence. So yes, it is about you. How you feel about you. What you believe about you. Others can tell you all about what they see in you. But it all comes down to you.
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With great warmth,
