Each person is different, and yet the same. We each laugh and cry. Everyone feels and thinks. It is how we handle and process each event that differs. There could be 5 people impacted by the same event, and each will process differently. There is no right way or wrong way. But there is a healthy way and a damaging way. Just need to pull it back layer by layer.
Same and Different
I have lost family members in my life over the last 10 years. Experiencing grandparents and my father leaving this earth has made me realize how I process my grief. For those that were a surprise loss, the grief hit much harder and more sudden. Many emotions floor in all at one time. But for those that I was personally there with them, or they were ill for some time, the grief is different. This may sound bad, but I lose the feeling altogether. There are no tears, no outward depression. Just a full shutdown of all emotion.
This is just me and how I handle my trauma and life events. Some may need to talk it out or escape the situation to process. The best thing you can do to get through your life events is listen to your mind and body. Processing how you feel is best for you. And never allow someone to pressure you into doing something you do not want to do. But….I do suggest being open-minded about other outlets.
Understanding
To fully understand and later accept the new situation, you need to pull back the layers in front of you. The what, when, why, and who of the event. Find out how it truly impacts your life and how you can move forward. Discover more about yourself and learn healthier ways to fight against life’s curveballs. And finally, take your time. Do not rush your process. And try not to dwell too deeply on it either, leading you down a dark path. Processing is strength. Don’t stop.
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With great warmth,
